To All Moms

Recently I have heard the words "I hate you", "I'm just going to live with Dad", "You don't love me".  Sometimes being a parent, especially a single mom, can cut you to the very core of who you are and make you question are you doing the right thing.  About a month ago I made a few changes.  One being that Caleb had to turn off all screens 30 min before bed time and read.  OMG you would think I was killing him.  The first night he even refused to eat his bed time snack.  BTW he went to bed without one that night.  He was so mad.  MOM!!!!!! WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME????? My answer "Because I love you".  Have to say those first few nights I questioned myself.  But I knew he had to take time to read.  Boy am I glad I stayed the course.  After about 4 days I told him it was time to put his book away and go to sleep.  "Mommmmmmmm can't I read for 5 more min".  lol what a change from the "I hate you"   This morning he said to me "Mom we need to go and get another book for me to read.  I am all done my book".  

SO BE ENCOURAGED AND STAY THE COURSE.  Sometimes we do things because we love our kids even though at that moment in time they hate us.  If we stay the course and don't deviate from what we know is the right thing, even though sometimes it is waaaay easier to give in, our kids are happier.  

Being "present" has reduced my Stress levels

It has been a crazy busy 21 days.  I can say that I am so glad I made the decision to take a risk, and begin a new journey.  My children have been AMAZING and are 100% on board with helping out.

A Problem To Solve

Making the decision to walk away from my only source of income and recreate a new one is very stressful on everyone.  In the first few weeks I realized that I was going to have to develop the ability to be stressed but enjoy life at the same time.  When I built my last company I can look back and realized I missed out on some things.  Not because I was gone all the time, but because I was not "present" in the moment.  You know those times in life, where everything is so overwhelming, and you are so stressed, that even though you are with the ones you love, you are not really there.  You're physically there, but your mind is elsewhere and you are thinking about all the things you have to do.  Wondering how you are going to make it through etc.  It was my daughter who helped me recognize that.  In the first few weeks she got frustrated with me and pointed out to me that when I get stressed if effects how I respond to them.

Sometimes it's hard to allow your child to point out your shortcomings lol.  However, I didn't want to look back and realized I had not enjoyed this journey.  The whole concept of Network Marketing is that it is something that gives you the opportunity to be with your family and enjoy life.  Sometimes leaders in the industry can forget that and in an effort to grow their teams there is so much pressure that they are not present in the everyday, incredible moments of life.

The Decision

I have purposefully made the decision in the last 3-4 weeks to be present.  It has been incredible.  I have been extremely busy, however when I am with my children, a friend, enjoying a quite moment etc I make sure that I quite my mind.  I am a little ADD and my mind can be all over the place, so that it quite an accomplishment for me :-).  I cannot believe how that little decision has created so much joy inside me.  It has not been easy and I still have not perfected it, but the joy I feel each day is incredible.  I didn't realize that making the decision to be present in the moment can actually reduce my stress levels.

Are you Stressed?

Are you going through something in life right now that is creating stress?  Are you present in the moments that can bring joy?

Here is what I did.  I decided that even though I was stressed and had no idea if I was going to replace my income, if things were going to work out etc I was still going to enjoy what was important to me.   I am one of those people that has a hard time sitting still, keeping my mind calm, not thinking about 100 things at the same time and not worrying about the future.  So I decided to pick 1 thing I love doing and be present in that moment.  I thought if I started with 1 it would grow from there.  I picked meals with the kids.  When we would sit and eat, have tea together etc I would not look at my phone, answer calls and if my mind started to wander I would grab hold of it and bring it back to that moment in time.  It was easy to not answer the phone.  I would leave that somewhere else however, my mind was a bit more difficult to tame.  Over the last 4 weeks or so I have become quite successful at this, and it has surprised me at the results.  Do I have moments where I fail?  YES However, a majority of the time I succeed aaannnndddd I have been able to add other moments into it.  I have found that I can consistantly be present in any moment I choose.  It is soooooooo worth learning how to do this!!!!!  I had no idea how these moments can reduce my stress level and bring joy to those around you.

If you are wanting to improve any part of your life I encourage you to listen to this audio by Earl Nightingale  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=plhYVd2MgtA.

Loving the Jouney

Today I am setting some time aside to go and hang out with my Mom and help her with her pond.  It will be a moment that I am present and enjoy just "being". The best part is the more I have learnt how to do this the faster my business has grown.  I had NO idea that being present in the moment would allow my business to grow faster.  On TOP OF IT ALL, my quality of life has dramatically improved.